When we found out that we were expecting our first baby, it was surprising for my husband and me. We started planning and buying stuff for our baby (so excited).
Back then we lived in Alberta, Canada.
I had a very healthy pregnancy and we took Birthing Classes, so we planned on having a vaginal delivery until things changed when I was 37, 1/2 weeks along. My water broke on a Saturday early morning, everything was new and unexpected for us, so we went to the hospital for a checkup, we had learned a lot in our classes but far from enough for this situation. Things seemed to be fine, but no contractions came. The doctor sent us home for the day to see if there would be any changes, but none. Everything stayed the same and my doctor didn’t explain anything at all. We had to come in for the night, they did more checkups (which were very painful) and since time went by and no contractions started, they put me on Pitocin, but that didn’t help either. We waited until Sunday morning for any changes. By then I was prepared to have a C-Section. I cried, and my Husband was terrified. This had absolutely not been in our plans.
At 12 o’clock at noon our beautiful little baby girl (Jenilee Dyan) was born.
When we discovered after 1 year and 6 months that we were expecting our second baby, my pregnancy was fine again. We waited to have a vaginal Birth this time. The doctor we had in this pregnancy told us she would give me limited time only for a vaginal Birth and we listened to everything she said. Contractions didn’t start by the limited time she gave me. I ended up with my second C- Section at 39, ½ weeks.
After being home with our second baby, I dealt with a lot of problems. I had a hard time enjoying our little precious baby (too much pain). I was so disappointed they had treated me this way. Such a bad experience!!!
If Doctors would have more patience, more moms would be able to enjoy the little children God is giving them, but no, a CESAREAN instead, it’s more money for them and less work and no stress! I hate that idea!!
After 5 years of struggles, I finely was ready for a baby again. I got pregnant with our third Baby and I just had a very strong feeling this time it had to be different. If I had to have another C-Section like the last one, “I’d rather stay Pregnant instead of going thru it again”, I thought. We took this into our daily prayers. I had a friend that was expecting too by that time. When we met, we had this “Birthing” talk and I realized that she had made her decision very clear, she was going for a VHBAC(Vaginal Home Birth After Cesarean). NO CSection again! She had 4 previous Cesareans, I thought. I wanted to go for this too after 2 Cesareans.
I talked about it to my husband and he was totally for it too, so I tried to find someone that would be able to help me, but living in a Country where the doctors just want to do C-Sections because its faster, is impossible to find someone. “Who would help me”???
I asked my doctor (we had at the time) about helping me and he replied: “You or the baby will die if you want to try a VHBA2C (if the incision opens) and that’s too many hours of labor and besides it’s so painful, a Cesarean takes only 20 minutes, and it’s done, without having these long hours of pain. I hated this idea and he knew it. Another doctor we asked gave me 60% chance for a VHBA2C after a complete checkup. We were disappointed because my pregnancy was fine and it had been 5 years since my last incision already. We could not go with this Idea!! God, what is your plan for me???
I made many, many calls, National, International, but this one thing seemed to be impossible. BUT, we didn’t give up. One day I called a lady (not for a VBAC reason), but when it came into the conversation, she gave me a number of a hospital of which she thought that they would accept me. I called different hospitals and every time I had to tell them my “Birth” stories. And everywhere I got the same answer. “No, you can’t have a vaginal birth, because you have 2 incisions, we only help if they have 1.” And so it continued. I asked them if they knew ANYBODY that would help me, again I just got another phone number to try. I called and called! One day I finally reached someone who said “YES, you CAN have a vaginal birth!” What??? She said yes??? I couldn’t believe I found someone!!!! She gave me 100% chance of a VHBA2C.. I had reached the end of this very long journey. God wanted me to learn to be patience in this process. Thanks be to our best friend, God. We then booked an appointment with this midwife, and you know what? She was so amazing! A wonderful lovely midwife! I couldn’t thank God enough for leading us to her. She explained everything to us, how big the risk was for me to end up in a hospital, how many years of experience she had on VBACs and that she always had someone beside her to teach them and so on… She didn’t decide for us, it was 100% our choice to say yes or no after all the explanations she did. And YES, we wanted it because the risk was very, very low. She said that she had never had a pregnant women patient who’s incision ripped open during a VHBAC(Vaginal Home Birth After Cesarean) labor. She has help thousands and thousands of Moms delivering their Babies.
Back home friends and some family members did not recommend us to go for it (testy).
One night when I woke up, I couldn’t sleep because there was this one saying in me: “Go for a VHBA2C I will be there with you, so it will be possible”. After this saying I felt asleep again. God clearly showed me that I could go for a VHBA2C. He would be there too and help.
Time came and we traveled 4 hours to the place where my midwife lived, in El Paso, Texas, USA this time. I was 38 weeks along when we left home, and lived in an Apartment. So we waited exactly 2 weeks for something to happen. I then went for the Castor oil to see if there would be any reactions to it and “YES”, it worked. I swallowed half the content at 3 o’clock (uh yuck)! I took a nap and tried to get the last part of the oil down at 8:30 pm. My water started braking now little by little and at 8:40 my first contractions started and keeping track of them they were only two minutes apart. We tracked for an hour and they stayed very constant. I called my midwife to let her know what was going on. She was like “you have Contractions”? You still sound very relaxed and good”. She told me to have a warm shower to see if the contractions would stay active, and they did, I labored in the tub for 3- 3, 1/2 hours (approx.). I felt most comfy in water. My husband called my doula and she came in at 10:30 pm and helped with everything she could (I highly recommend having a doula) I felt so relaxed when she arrived. She was a lovely person for support, wherever I was, she was there with and for me. I’m so thankful my midwife hired her for me. My midwife came around 11 o’clock (approx.). After a few hours she did a Checkup to see how far I was dilated and it was surprising for me and my husband. I was already between 6-7 cm. I labored some more hours in a shower, on a birthing ball until my “Birthing Pool” was ready to hop in.
I labored the rest of the time in the pool. Everyone was patient and so helpful. Thanks to my midwife that had this great idea of this little helpful group. (My husband, the doula, my midwife and her assistant). The assistant she had brought was learning. I really like to see that my midwife is passing on her experiences so others can be helped too. The assistant was checking the baby’s heartbeat very often to see if it was doing fine, which was perfect every time. My midwife explained every step that was happening or going to happen, I still am thankful she did it that way. I had no fear that my incision would open. I knew I was in good hands. From the time I felt the urge to push till the baby was born took a little over an hour. When the baby’s head was reachable I got out of the pool, because I sat in a position where it was hard to get a good grip of the head
(it was totally fine)! I laid down in bed, and instantly our baby slipped out. An 8lb 4oz. baby girl. HURRAY! HURRAY! I made it! (I hadn’t die nor did the baby!) What a wonderful birth I had. NO IV put on NO C-SECTION!
Unbelievable, I had an 8, 1/2 hour labor from beginning to end. Our baby and me were so well and fine. My midwife did some stitching and explained me how the baby had been in the placenta and other little details which I really liked, and it was done! She wanted me to get up and go to the bathroom and it worked just great. They did all the paperwork and so everybody was ready to sleep. My doula took the placenta with her for encapsulation. Now after the birth of our daughter I feel so great. I recommend everybody to go for a Home Birth if the Mom is healthy, it’s so much healthier and to let the world know that it is possible. That is how God planed it to be.
Our three beautiful girls God has given us!